YOUR PERSONAL SAFETY PLAN

If you feel that an argument is going to take place then try to move to a room where there are exit doors, which can allow you to escape outside. Do not lock yourself in a bathroom if there is not means of escape.

Avoid rooms such as kitchens where there are sharp objects, which could be used as weapons against you or places where tools are lying around or stored.

Try not to carry out those actions which may escalate an argument.

Speak in a calm and confident manner.

Try not to show fear and keep a safe amount of space between yourselves.

If you have children consider teaching them how to use the phone to summon assistance if a violent incident occurs.

If you feel able to confide in neighbours also ask them to summon assistance if an incident occurs.

If you have to escape ensure you have a safe place to go.

If your partner no longer lives with you but you still live in fear of them returning, consider improving your domestic security by:

• Changing the locks on all external doors. Keep the doors locked at all times and remove the keys
• Have smoke detectors fitted. If activated these should allow you sufficient time to locate the door keys
• Ensure you have suitable window locks
• If possible have a door viewer fitted
• A strong robust door chain should be installed
• Consider having perimeter lighting installed and positioned at a suitable height to avoid it being tampered with
• Have an alarm system fitted, which includes a panic device

Leaving your home should be seen as a last resort. Consider court action to evict your partner from the premises. If you feel that you are in a situation where you must leave then take the following items if you possess them. If possible have them located in one place, as you may have to leave in a hurry. Remember you may not be able to gain access back into the property.

• Money, all Benefit books/bank statements if benefit paid into bank account
• Social security cards and court orders
• Cheque book and account details
• Bank/credit cards
• House deeds/agreements/payment books/insurance certificates
• Personal medication/prescriptions
• NHS card
• Birth certificate/s
• Passport/s
• Address/appointment/personal telephone book
• Clothes/toys for the children if you have them
• Keys - house/car
• Photographs
• Jewellery
• Driving Licence

The more preparation you carry out the safer you will be. Having a suitable escape plan could save your life. Try and ensure you have a safe place to go. It may not be best to tell your partner you are leaving as they will probably try and stop you, which may lead to aggression and violence, as it will mean your partner will no longer be able to have control over you.